Do not be conformed to this age, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. (Rom. 12:2)
When you hear about unmarried couples living together, you probably picture a young man and woman who have never been married. But now when I hear about couples living together, I think about my granddaughter’s other grandma. She divorced her husband last year and now lives with her new boyfriend.
A generation ago most Americans would consider this scandalous. But few people even blink at it today.
My daughter and her husband, for example, don’t think it’s enough of an issue to forbid their five-year-old daughter Emma from having sleepovers at Grandma Diane and “Grandpa” Craig’s house. Diane and Craig also take trips together, and this summer they will be taking my granddaughter with them to Florida for a “family vacation.”
Because of the slippery slope on which our society now finds itself, I pray for wisdom for myself, as well as for my daughter and her husband. I pray that in holding fast to a righteous stan- dard, I will still show others God’s love, mercy, and grace. But I also pray that He will protect my sweet, innocent granddaughter from adopting beliefs and values that are not consistent with His Word.
Some argue that living together is a good way to “test drive” a couple’s compatibility in marriage. But the latest research shows that couples who cohabit before marriage have a much higher divorce rate than those who don’t. These couples have higher rates of domestic violence and are more likely to be involved in sexual affairs, since the element of commitment and covenant is so obviously missing. The best advice is still to trust God’s wisdom and obey His Word. “Be holy,” He says, “because I am holy” (1 Pet. 1:16).